Why am I so mean to me?
HOW TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS
Your voice is the one you hear most often. What you say to yourself matters.
Does this sound familiar?
- Your inner voice is super-judgy, bullying, even cruel and uses words you would never say to another person.
- It's so hard to enjoy your people because you have a running commentary pointing out everything wrong with what you are doing or saying.
- You feel super awkward when anyone offers you a compliment (because if they only knew the truth!).
- If something unexpected or unwanted happens, you assume it must be your fault.
- Bullying yourself is how you've got everything done for so long, that you're afraid you'll 'lose your edge' if you stop.
- You're not even sure what 'compassionate self-talk' might sound like but the thought of it makes you feel a bit sweaty.
Let me show you how.
we'll explore:
And you'll walk away with:
- Where your judgy internal voice comes from - because everything from the tone and words it uses to the contexts that activate it, is no coincidence.
- What to do when you are being horrible to yourself - because we so quickly go into a dysregulated state and react from there.
- How to change your inner dialogue to one of robust compassion and discerning encouragement. I'm excited to share an practical and forgiving process you can use every day.
- Deeper awareness and understanding of the conditions that created this voice. We'll figure out what this 'voice' needs from you today.
- An effective and tender approach to help you gently interrupt that mean voice. You'll be able to practice staying grounded and respond from your own Healthy Adult Self.
- A proven self-kindness practice for shifting how you speak to yourself - particularly when something unexpected or unwanted happens.
Why am I so mean to me? Wokshop
HERE'S WHAT'S INCLUDED:
- A 90 minute workshop that explores where our judemental, mean voices came from and what they are really trying to do.
- A compassion-led self kindness practice for gently interrupting that voice and speaking to it from your healthy resourced adult self (even if she feels new to you).
- A beautiful reference guide designed to support and inspire you. If you find the idea of offering yourself compassion Very Awkward, this is for you!
Hello you! I'm Sas Petherick
I am so glad you found your way here.
This relationship we have with ourselves is a trip, right? It really is for life. And there is no escape - we take ourselves wherever we go. I learned this for realz twelve years ago when I first got sober.
I could no longer numb out from all the shameful things I believed to be true about me - so I had to find a way to be with myself.
Personal experience, coupled with graduate research and coaching with hundreds of clients over the last decade, means I have a toolkit of evidence-based approaches I'd love to share.
You can build a relationship with yourself grounded in unconditional respect, compassion, and kindness.
I can't wait to meet you. ❤️
Sas’s tender questioning, practical suggestions, and rousing encouragement guided me through a truly transformational process. It’s like having the kind of cool older sister that only seems to exist in films, except this one is absolutely real. She doesn’t just offer sage words but has an awesome toolkit for creating real, tangible shifts.
Working with Sas has been life-altering. Her coaching style creates a safe, loving, gentle environment that fosters the perfect space to explore and play, while also digging deep within. Sas is the most intuitive soul I’ve ever met. If anyone is looking to amp up their life, connect with this woman. She is a freaking rockstar!
After yet another burnout to do with work, I asked Sas to help me figure out how to get myself back to the centre. Sas offered new perspectives and taught me some wonderful tools that I have been able to use to ‘check in’ with myself and to reframe situations. I highly recommend hiring Sas as a guide!
Sas has some kind of magic. With Sas’ support I’ve turned a path filled with fear into one that has become a journey back home to my own self. Sas’ perspective is fresh and personalised. Even after one session, I knew this was the best choice I’ve made in a long time.
I knew I needed help navigating through a time of high transition in my life and from our very first session, I felt as though Sas knew me. She is adept at putting me at ease with my situation and any circumstances I find myself facing. Her gift to me has been opening my eyes to my own power and wisdom. After each session, I’m left with an amazing sense of clarity and being understood. Sas is a delight! I can’t thank her enough for the sense of stability and calmness she has helped me achieve.