Nice to meet you
Kia ora e hoa
at heart, i'm a developmental coach
Self-doubt is a protective mechanism that tries in complex and sophisticated ways to hold us back from psychological risk. We construct narratives about who we believe we need to be to feel safe - to be accepted, to belong - based on our lived experiences. These stories inevitably become fixed and constraining - we end up feeling stuck between what we want, and the risks our desires present.
Because self-doubt is a 'developmental dilemma' my approach to coaching is very much interested in exploring how you make sense of your 'self'. Coaching is an ideal container to uncover, understand and heal the unconscious protective beliefs that are in charge, and to support you to develop psychological flexibility to create a life that feels fulfilling and meaningful.
Developmental coaching is quite different from solution-focussed or cognitive approaches that focus on behaviour and managing your mindset.
spirtually, I'm curious, discerning and frequently in awe
Since I read the children's bible to keep my 9-year-old insomnia at bay, I have been fascinated by the mythical, magical, mystical experiences. When I got sober, I became increasingly fascinated by the mystery and the wonder of being awake to all of life.
In seeking a close, personal relationship with source, goddesses, angels, galactic family, and spirit guides, I've worked with shamans and seers, tarot readers and astrologists. I've taken psychedelics and channelled a collective energy that shows up on the page.
I'm fascinated by prophecies about this time and place in the lifespan of humanity that feels deeply important. I don't think any of us are here, now by accident. I don't believe we are alone in the universe. I believe Gaia is very much aware of us.
Some of my favourite humans are agnostic and atheist and love a good ritual, some are recovering from the effect of organised religion, and others are having a love affair with Kali.
I am powered by curiosity, kindness and black coffee.
I’m sharing this adventure with Mr P. Ash is my best friend, co-conspirator and favourite human. On paper, we couldn’t be more different, but our conscious, loving, sometimes crazy-making marriage is the thing I am most proud of. I don’t ever want our conversation to be over.
I love our big squishy sofa on a rainy Autumn afternoon. I can’t see a great movie too many times. I’ve travelled to every country in Europe and I still don’t believe in the physics of flight. Home is where my books are.
I believe in the healing power of belly laughs, poetry, bear-hugs, singing loudly while driving alone. And pie.
I’ve come to understand that being alive is an unending meaning-making process of imagination, experimentation and interpretation.
I agree with John Steinbeck: nothing good gets away.
It's never too late to change your story.
Thanks for being here. I can already tell we’re going to get along bloody marvellously.
From grieving, burnt out and lost to
finding my way home...
Before I worked with Sas, I felt stuck in a rut and going round in circles, knowing I needed to make change, but being very fearful and confused about what, when and how.
Since we’ve worked together I’ve been able to gain clarity about my situation, take steps to make major change and understand myself a lot better. I have become more of a champion for myself. I cannot recommend Sas highly enough.
Sas has a way of getting you to really think about what is behind the issue and since working with her I have come to terms with things that had been concerning me for years. I have accepted myself for who I am and I feel so much more confident in my own instincts now.
Without any doubt, working with Sas is the best investment I have ever made in myself. Sas is a total master at sensing where the tightest knots really are and then gently but firmly encouraging you to unpick them.
It’s been like adding the final pieces to a puzzle that I’ve been grappling with for years.