Episode 81: Dealing With Disappointment
Humans have an amazing ability to conjure up big dreams for what our lives might look like, and then take steps to turn those dreams into reality…
But, unfortunately, it doesn’t always work out that way.
Sometimes there are just too many obstacles standing in the way.
Maybe we doubt our own abilities and let uncertainty hold us back – or maybe we allow others, through their conscious or unconscious actions, to put us in a cage.
Either way, the situation (and the disappointment that follows) can be tough to navigate.
The good news is, everything you need for your own mental wellbeing – agency over your thoughts, feelings, and actions – is already within your control.
All you have to do is take responsibility for your own experience – because here’s the thing:
Even though others are responsible for their actions, they are not responsible for the way you respond, no matter how disappointed you feel, and guess what?
Understanding that is a beautiful thing, because it means having the key to your own psychological cage.
In this episode, we deal with a few hairy questions from readers that will resonate with you, particularly if you’re feeling disillusioned by your personal relationships or your work life.
So what’s this episode really about?
- How to assert your autonomy without controlling others
- The power of redirecting your energy away from disappointment and towards more positive emotions
- The importance of offering yourself compassion when you make a mistake or an error in judgment
- How to make peace with seemingly contradictory thoughts and feelings
Why you should listen
Healthy boundaries are essential at the best of times, and even more so when life gets complicated. Whether you’ve known troubles in your personal relationships or even on a larger scale in your work and sense of purpose, this episode will clear up any doubt surrounding your lingering thoughts and feelings and remind you that we are always in choice.
You can quote me on that…
“When we put boundaries in place, what we’re really doing is saying, ‘Look, I’ve got the courage to just take care of me, even if that’s inconvenient for someone else – even if that risks disappointing someone else.’” – Sas Petherick
“Humans are messy and imperfect, but they will show you who they are.” – Sas Petherick
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